Sunday, April 5, 2009

Have a great bachelor party...with the in-laws

Picture it: Surprise, Surprise - you were "kidnapped" by your best man and have arrived at the previously undisclosed location of your bachelor party. You meet up at the hotel with your best buddies from high school, college and work. You're ready to hit the town. You crack open a beer, relax on the sofa and who walks in? Your FATHER-IN-LAW and BROTHER-IN-LAW to be. Can you still have a great time with these spies watching your every move? GroomGroove.com and Montreal VIP have some tips for you.

Have a Plan

First and foremost, get rid of that "deer in the headlights" look you've got. It is going to be ok. As soon as you know that guys from your fiancée's family will attend your bachelor party, discuss a plan with the organizer to maximize comfort, if they haven't thought of this already. Consult your best man and other groomsmen. Ideally, they will have split the bachelor party into two distinct flavors, just like salsa: Mild, and Hot.

Mild- The Steak Dinner

Chances are, your evening will start with a decent meal. Dinner at almost any bachelor party will be fairly tame, and for your sake, you may want to make sure that this is the case. Take this opportunity over dinner to connect with your future in-laws. They will understand that this is your day and that you're going to indulge a little. You certainly don't need to tell them that. To be on the safe side, pace yourself during the first leg of the journey because with a good bachelor party, there's always more to come. Your future in-laws may shake your hand and call it night after dinner. Unless you happen to be very close with them, and feel entirely comfortable, this would be the ideal scenario. Worst-case scenario, you'll have to go with the flow.

Hot - A Lap Dance or Three

If there is a trip to a gentleman's club planned for later, you'll want to know about it. If your future brother and/or father-in-law decide to join you for the hot portion of the evening, while you don't need to warn them, somebody has to do it. A great candidate for that task is your best man. He should have a chat with the guys to lay out where you are going, and, above all, to state the obvious: that what happens at your bachelor party, stays at your bachelor party. Her Majesty will never hear a word about it. At the club, it will be impossible to escape the attention if scores of friends are pointing to you and announcing to the world that this is your last night as free man. However, it's your night out. Put on your blinders, and party.

When the Party Winds Down

If your future in-laws attend, you will likely feel a bit restricted as to what you can say and do at your bachelor party. If you think about it, that may not be such a bad thing. Because of their presence, you might dodge such cringe-worthy traditions such as having choice phrases scrawled across your flesh with permanent marker, or waking up in a pool of sweat and a dress. That's reason enough to welcome your soon-to-be dad and brother into this fraternal fiesta.

The Secret to Success
Montreal VIP and GroomGroove.com believe the secret to enjoying your last night out as a free man is to plan ahead. Whether you have a role in the planning of the party or you're just innocent victim of a kidnapping courtesy of your best man, there's nothing wrong with covering all the bases with the organizers. You'll feel more at ease and your future in-laws will feel comfortable as well. Above all else, you are the guest of honor and are duty-bound to have a great time. Plan on it!

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